As you know, I preach the making of ethical and healthy porn, so that both genders can enjoy and explore their sexuality without the pressure of clichés and body image. This is why I have gathered sexy gifs and made a comparison between mainstream porn and real sex. Real sex can be so much better, more arousing, more satisfactory and more intense than fake boobs, bad lingerie and cream pies. I don’t mean that all mainstream porn is bad, but I think sometimes it’s good to get some perspective… Ethical porn actually depict not only real sex but also healthy fantasies on the basis that everybody is free to have pleasure.
The whole point of ethical/feminist porn is that it can help people enjoying even more their sexuality in real life. We are sadly all influenced by mainstream porn and sometimes expectations don’t match reality when we’re having sex with someone real. So, my advice is to not worry about not being “good enough” and just have fun!
Let’s begin.
1. Expectation: Kissing is like a pool sport
Reality: kissing can be the hottest turn on ever
2. Expectation: Foreplay is basically “show me yours and I’ll show you mine” kind of thing
Reality: it can be short or long, but it always warms every inch of your skin
3. Expectation: Guys have to have huge dicks, otherwise it’s no fun
Reality: Yes, it’s true: size does not matter!
Ok, maybe it’s nice when it’s not too small, but still, way too many guys are self-conscious about the size of their penis when, with a little more self-confidence, they could make girls scream with pleasure.
4. Expectation: Same for boobs, the bigger, the better… or not?
Reality: Any kind of boob is awesome.
Some guys like big boobs, others like small ones. It’s just a matter of personal taste! Girls with small boobs are way sexier than fake/plastic tits girls.
5. Expectation: Fellatio is something a girl HAS to do to a guy
Reality: Giving head can be sooo arousing for a woman, but only when she feels like it!
6. Expectation: Actually cunnilingus are not so badly treated in porn, and this .gif looks pretty fun!
Reality: Getting your pussy eaten is just the best.
7. Expectation: Trying new positions looks so easy!
Reality: Well, it’s not always as easy as it seems. But you know what they say… Practice, practice, practice!
8. Expectation: Lesbians are dying to fuck men and women are always so eager to have sex with each other
Reality: Lesbians have hot real sex with, you know, women!
9. Expectation: Because every girl likes to have acrobatic masturbating sessions
Reality: The couch is usually much more comfortable.
10. Expectation: the male orgasm protocole is to take it out and come all over your partner’s ass.
Reality: guys don’t have to “keep their cool” and they usually make funny faces. And it’s much funnier that way!
11. Expectation: women are supposed to squirt and scream and all kinds of stuff when reaching climax, if it’s real of course.
Reality: Orgasm can manifest in many different faces and feelings.
Laura Munday
July 6, 2013 7:09 am
Great article Lucie, and sooo true!
Tom
July 29, 2013 4:35 pm
Well,
Getting your dick sucked is just the best also.
The trick is finding a good balance… no one should be forced to do something they don’t want to do, but if someone love receiving but never “feels like” giving and you want them to, you end up with quite an undesirable situation!
Lucie Blush
July 29, 2013 4:45 pm
Hey Tom, of course I completely agree with you, balance is everything!
Bigblueboob
October 2, 2013 7:50 pm
But what of she absolutely don’t wanna blow? It’s really frustrating, but i love her and won’t destroy my happy family only for this reason…it’s very dissapointing. All my GF’s blowed my dick perfectly, don’t know what to do…
Lucie Blush
October 2, 2013 7:55 pm
Have you talked to her? It would be helpful to know why she doesn’t like it. Maybe starting slow would be good, make it nice… Do you go down on her often?
Rick Jeffery
February 22, 2014 7:01 am
nothing hard about it if she don’t blow she doesn’t get licked works with my wife she knows if she wants oral she has to give first
Lara @ condom monologues
November 19, 2013 10:24 pm
Love this post! Comfort on the couch made me laugh because it is oh so true.
Lucie Blush
November 19, 2013 10:32 pm
haha yeah I think many people can relate to that 🙂
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